Mate (2015 hardback edition)

What Women Want (2016 paperback edition)

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The Mating Grounds website with further info and many podcasts is here


  • Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20+ years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities.
  • The short answer: become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work and a little help.
  • Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Ms. Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate, an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right way:
  • No "seduction techniques". No moralizing. No bullshit. Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you.

A free sample chapter (Introduction) in doc form is  here

An evidence-based blog about the best shoes to wear on a first date is  here 


  • "Every single page has interesting information. A great resource."―Dr. Drew Pinsky, host of the Loveline radio show and Dr. Drew On Call on HLN
  • "The most unexpected book of the year: World-famous evolutionary psychologist meets world-famous drunken asshole. The result: A sober, solid, necessary, and authoritative guide not just to dating, but to becoming a better man."―Neil Strauss, author of New York Times bestseller The Game and The Truth
  • "I wish I could teleport a copy of Mate back in time and give it to my 13-year-old self, and then instruct him to read it once a year for the next decade."―Jake Seliger, author and founder of The Story's Story
  • "From the very beginning, this book plays it straight. It's about becoming a better person and creating positive, fulfilling relationships. This isn't a book with a predatory, pickup artist mindset."―Aubrey Marcus, founder of Onnit Fitness and the Aubrey Marcus Podcast
  • "A fascinating look at mating and dating from the perspective of a guy who gained fame for doing the former.... Miller's academic influence gives it some much needed credibility."―Adam Kovac,


  • Publishers Weekly  link 
  • Robin Hanson at 'Overcoming Bias'  link 
  • Will's Personal Development blog (25 min video) review 
  • Jim Early at Trailblazer Coaching  link 
  • Jake Seliger at The Story's Story  link 
  • SimpleGuySkills  link 
  • Tyler Cowen at Marginal Revolution  link 

Interviews with the authors

  • 'Bulletproof Executive Radio' (#138) interviews Geoffrey listen
  • Christopher Ryan ('Tangentially Speaking' #81) interviews Geoffrey  listen 
  • 'Dating Skills Review' (#67) interviews Geoffrey listen
  • Gad Saad (#138) interviews Geoffrey listen 
  • 'Knowledge for Men' (#199) interviews Geoffrey listen
  • 'The Art of Charm' (#334) interviews Geoffrey  listen 
  • The Art of Manliness (#142) interviews Geoffrey  link 
  • Abel James interviews Tucker  link 
  • James Altucher (#133) interviews Tucker  link 
  • Dr. Drew (#199) interviews Tucker  link 
  • Michael Ellsberg for Forbes interviews Tucker  link 
  • Adam Kovac for AskMen interviews Tucker  link 
  • Dylan Love for TheDailyDot interviews Tucker  link 
  • Maxim interviews Tucker  link 
  • Raul Felix (Thought Catalog) interviews Tucker  link 
  • Rich Roll (#154) interviews Tucker  link 
  • SOFREP News interviews Tucker  link 
  • TheChive (#35) interviews Tucker   link 
  • ProductHunt interviews Geoffrey and Tucker  link 


  • U.S./Canada: Little, Brown & Co. (hardcover (as Mate), paperback (as What Women Want), ebook, & audiobook)
  • German: Mosaik, Berlin
  • Portugese: Sextanta, Rio de Janeiro

References and Suggested Readings: The complete list for the book is  here